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Friendships are the true Relationship
My beloved readers ,
Well, I m blessed as I have many friends. Everyone has his/her
value and space in my heart and life. As you all know human being
is a social animal we need people, friends, relatives, soulmates
etc, etc. To share ourselves and to learn about them. To feel them
and they feel us. That special kind of feelings which gives us a
courage, support and belongingness. Ah, it is very easy to make
friendship, but it is very hard to maintain relationship.
Friendship is a term used to denote co-operative and supportive
behavior between two or more beings. In this sense, the term
connotes a relationship which involves mutual knowledge, esteem,
and affection and respect along with a degree of rendering service
to friends in times of need or crisis. Friends will welcome each
other's company and exhibit loyalty towards each other, often to
the point of altruism. A group of friends consists of two or more
people who are in a mutually pleasing relationship engendering a
sentiment of camaraderie, exclusivity, and mutual trust. There are
varying degrees of "closeness" between friends. Hence, some people
choose to differentiate and categorize friendships based on this
sentiment.
"Friendships are truly some of the most important relationships
other than spousal, significant other or child; they have equal
gravity. I think they're that important,"."Without question they
offer an opportunity for us to know ourselves." As we sometimes can
not share our real innerself with our spouse, parents, relatives
etc. A good friend is someone that lets us be ourselves and
hopefully encourages us to the best part of ourselves. I think they
are a mirror of our values, sorrows and fun. Here it want to add
one more secret which you likes to know that we all need our coffee
friends (ahhaaa) to talk ...; but we have to have fun with them
too. The relationship requires empathy and sensitivity. "And yes,
communication is key and I have all kinds of keys as I m very
talkative person. If I get a chance during my sleep I talk and talk
and talk....Friendship itself is sometimes sparked by what we call
"vibes," or a strange and electric power of attraction. This is
what gives it such a terrific and seemingly magical power to tie
people together so closely. All the same, our first impressions can
often be mistaken. We've all made mistakes before in the friends
we've chosen. Often, we'd like to ignore, forget, or believe that
we had anything to do with the selection, but we shouldn't. It's
these lessons that remind us that we are human and make mistakes,
as-well-as the fact that not everyone we meet will enter into a
relationship (whether business, personal, etc.), for the same
reasons that we do. It's not right or wrong - good or bad. It's
just life. In friendship we should understand, respect and feel the
good or bad points of our friend. Look for people who respect your
decisions. Your friends will have different tastes than you do.
They should respect your freedom of choice, just as you should
respect theirs. Sometimes you may feel that a friend is not making
a positive choice. Discuss these issues. Nothing is more important
to friendship than communication and honesty. Discuss things with
parents or significant others and your instructor(s) as well. There
will be times when you feel that a friend of yours is consistently
making bad choices, or is not treating you with respect. try to see
where your friend is coming from, and try to resolve any
differences you might have, don't be afraid to talk ...
It is very true that friendship is the initial step to love. But
not in all cases, we have some people in our lives that we consider
as very good friends. They are always there for you when ever you
need them. Friends are someone with whom you can share all your
secrets with. They help you out, talk to you when you need to talk,
share your problems, talk to you about their crushes, and hang
around. Help you out with your social issues and your personal
issue. And love is something not very much different from
friendship. Love is a natural feeling, which comes when you start
to like or love someone from the depth of your heart. This feeling
is very different from all the other feelings. When you see them
around you start to get cold sweat, and when they come to talk to
you about something, you realize your tongue tight or maybe you’re
lost of words. When they touch you, suddenly you can feel
butterflies in your stomach, and then it is love. Love and
friendship are two very important relations is one’s life. Life can
be very beautiful if you both good friends and a lovers. A human
being can't live without love and also the friendship, because when
you are alone then you need a loving friend who can listen to you
and release your tension and can solve your problem, with these two
things human being is very alone and can't live in this
materialistic world.
A Good friends can be a lovers but it is hard that lovers can be
good friends. Sometimes, I personally believe friendship is far
more important than love. Love hurts.. Ahh, mostly. The fear is of
losing that person by even on petty things. Friendship can give you
sense of loyalty to your company and loving gives you feeling of
being part of what ever is going around and you deeply participate
and enjoy. We can't compare love with friendship. Each one has its
own greatness and importance. For me a friend is more important
than lover. For this reason, love and friendship often get lumped
together as a single topic; nonetheless, there are significant
differences between them. As understood here, love is an evaluative
attitude directed at particular persons as such, an attitude which
we might take towards someone whether or not that love is
reciprocated and whether or not we have an established relationship
with him/her. Friendship, by contrast, is essentially a kind of
relationship grounded in a particular kind of special concern each
has for the other as the person. One should know what kind a
friendship he or she has as friendship theory of Aristotle;-
Friendship... is a kind of virtue, or implies virtue, and it is
also most necessary for living. Nobody would choose to live without
friends even if he had all the other good things.... There are,
however, not a few divergent views about friendship. Some hold that
it is a matter of similarity: that our friends are those who are
like our selves... Others take the contrary view....
There are three kinds of friendship....
1- Friendship based on utility.
2- Friendship based on pleasure.
3-Perfect friendship is based on goodness.
“To perceive a friend, therefore, is necessarily in a manner to
perceive oneself, and to know a friend is in a manner to know
oneself. The excellent person is related to his friend in the same
way as he is related to himself, since a friend is another
himself.”
God bless and keep smiling!
Best regards,
Shaukat Ali Khan Charun Chitral…
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